Episode 156 – If You Feel Stuck With Money, Watch This Immediately

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

What if I told you that everything you’ve been taught about making money—the hustle, the strategy, the 5:00 AM Club—is actually a lie? A cultural story designed not to make you wealthy, but to keep you trapped in a cycle of effort and exhaustion. The financial stress you feel isn’t a sign of your failure—it’s a signal from your soul that you’re on the verge of a massive breakthrough.

I went from two foreclosed homes, crippling addiction, and financial ruin to building a $40 million company. The shift wasn’t about working harder or finding the perfect strategy. It came from rewiring my brain for wealth by aligning with what I call the 12 energetic laws of financial creation. These aren’t motivational slogans—they’re the physics of abundance, the blueprint for reclaiming control over your thoughts, emotions, and life.

Here are the twelve laws and how to integrate them:

Law 1: Money Is a Mirror, Not a Goal
Money is not a destination to chase—it’s a reflection of your inner state of worthiness, trust, and alignment. Your financial reality is nothing more than a printout of your subconscious beliefs. If you feel unworthy, your bank account will show it. Instead of asking, “How can I get more money?” ask, “What is my financial situation teaching me about me?”

When I finally understood this, I stopped seeing money as something separate from me, as an enemy or savior. I began to see it as feedback. My account balance was not condemning me—it was simply revealing the frequency I was holding. This law changed my relationship with money from resistance to curiosity, and curiosity is where transformation begins.

Law 2: Your Nervous System Is Your Financial Thermostat
Abundance feels unsafe if your nervous system has been wired for stress. Even if money flows in, you’ll sabotage it to return to the familiar state of scarcity. Inner peace must come first. The next time financial anxiety grips you, breathe deeply, place your hand on your heart, and affirm, “I’m safe right now. In this moment, I have everything I need.”

When I was operating from constant panic, no amount of money could soothe me. I always felt like it was slipping through my fingers. But once I began regulating my nervous system—through breathwork, meditation, and learning to actually sit in stillness—I found I could hold more money without sabotaging it. Safety in the body creates capacity for prosperity in the world.

Law 3: Desire Is Divine Direction
Wanting more is not greed—it’s guidance. Desire is the language of your soul, signaling the next stage of your evolution. Instead of suppressing desires, embrace them as sacred assignments. Write down a desire that feels scary or selfish and reframe it: “Who must I become to create and steward this reality?”

For years, I felt ashamed of my desires. I thought they were materialistic or egotistical. But the truth is, every desire that has ever come into my heart has shaped me into a better version of myself. Desire pulled me out of addiction. Desire guided me to create a business that serves thousands. Desire has always been the compass of my destiny. When you learn to see your desires as divine whispers, you stop resisting them and start expanding into them.

Law 4: Obsessing Over the How Distracts From the Who
Strategies matter less than identity. The universe doesn’t respond to your business plan; it responds to who you are. Decide who you are now—confident, creative, abundant—and embody that self today. From that state, the how unfolds naturally.

I used to get stuck in strategy loops—trying to predict every move, plan every outcome, and create perfect conditions before acting. It left me exhausted and paralyzed. When I shifted my focus from “How will this happen?” to “Who am I becoming?” everything simplified. The moment I embodied the identity of someone who was already wealthy, opportunities that aligned with that version of me appeared almost effortlessly.

Law 5: Wealth Follows Value, but Value Follows Identity
Value isn’t about output—it’s a transmission of your frequency. People don’t just buy your product; they buy your energy. When you embody certainty and peace, your work radiates value effortlessly. Before your next meeting, tune into the feeling of the result you want to create and transmit that energy.

When I first started my company, I thought success was about grinding out more hours than anyone else. But the truth was, clients didn’t just want my time—they wanted my state. When I showed up frantic, they sensed it. When I showed up calm, confident, and certain, they trusted me and invested in my work. Value begins with identity, and identity begins with belief.

Law 6: Love the Bank Account You Have
Resistance anchors you to your current reality. Gratitude sets you free. Instead of hating your financial situation, find one small thing about it to appreciate. Say: “To have a bank account I love, I must love the bank account I have.”

This one was hard for me when I was broke. I didn’t want to look at my accounts, let alone love them. But the more I avoided them, the worse things got. When I began blessing even the smallest amounts, I noticed a shift. Suddenly, I wasn’t living in avoidance—I was living in awareness. And awareness creates room for growth.

Law 7: The Fear of Not Enough Creates Scarcity
Life doesn’t respond to your wish to escape fear—it mirrors the fear itself. If you pursue money from fear of lack, you manifest more lack. Anchor into the truth: “I have enough. I’ve always had enough. I will always have enough.” From there, you create with freedom and joy.

Scarcity used to be the drumbeat of my life. I constantly thought, “What if it runs out? What if I lose it all?” And sure enough, I did—again and again. But once I rewired the belief into “There is always enough,” something amazing happened. I didn’t just keep money longer; I also enjoyed it more. Fear contracts your reality. Trust expands it.

Law 8: Strategy Fails When Energy Is Misaligned
No tactic works if executed from desperation or doubt. Energy determines results more than strategy. Before any major decision, pause and check your state. If you’re below an 8 out of 10 in clarity and confidence, stop and realign before acting.

I can’t tell you how many times I launched a project with the perfect strategy but the wrong energy—and it flopped. Meanwhile, I’ve launched things on the back of a napkin with absolute certainty, and they thrived. The common denominator isn’t strategy; it’s state. If your state is aligned, almost any strategy will work. If your state is misaligned, no strategy will.

Law 9: Resistance to Spending Is Resistance to Receiving
Money is meant to flow. Hoarding out of fear blocks circulation. Invest joyfully in your growth, health, and experiences as acts of trust in abundance. Each time you spend, affirm: “There’s always more where that came from.”

I used to clutch every dollar like it was my last. Even after I made more money, I was terrified to spend it. That fear choked the flow. When I began to spend with joy—on my growth, on my family, on experiences that mattered—I noticed money started flowing back faster. Money is like water: it stagnates when it’s hoarded but refreshes when it circulates.

Law 10: Income Is a Lagging Measure of Integration
External results take time to catch up to internal shifts. The money you see now reflects beliefs from months ago. Track your wins daily—the small choices where you act from your new identity. These are seeds that will harvest later.

I had to learn patience with this one. I wanted instant results. But once I began celebrating the small inner victories—choosing faith over fear, making one brave decision each day—I realized the external would always follow, sometimes with a lag of weeks or months. That’s why it’s so important to trust the process. What you plant today will show up tomorrow.

Law 11: Healing Your Past Unlocks Your Future
Money blocks are rarely about money—they’re about unresolved childhood imprints. Heal the younger version of yourself who felt unworthy or unsafe. As you reparent your inner child, you expand your capacity to hold wealth.

I’ll never forget the moment I realized my fear of going broke wasn’t about money at all. It was about being a little boy who once felt helpless and unseen. That child was still running the show until I brought him into the light, loved him, and told him he was safe now. That healing expanded my capacity more than any financial course or strategy ever could.

Law 12: Certainty Is a Choice, Not a Condition
Waiting for evidence before believing is backwards. Choose certainty first. Decide your goal is inevitable and live as if it’s already true. Write it down, declare “This or something better is on its way to me. It is done,” and hold that state.

When I first tried this, it felt delusional. But as I practiced it, I realized certainty is simply choosing a new state of being. The more I chose it, the more life mirrored it back to me. Certainty became a self-fulfilling prophecy. It wasn’t about ignoring reality; it was about anchoring into a higher one until my current reality rose to match it.

Your financial reality stems from who you are, not what you do. The wealthy version of you already exists—obscured only by fear and limiting beliefs. When you align your inner world with abundance, your outer world organizes to match it. True wealth doesn’t come from grinding harder—it comes from embodying the frequency of prosperity until reality bends to meet it. And once you begin practicing these laws, you realize money isn’t just about survival—it’s about expansion, creation, and stepping into the fullness of who you were always meant to be.