Episode 130 – The More You Let Go, The More You Receive

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

Every single one of us experiences some form of challenge on a daily basis. It could be something small, like an annoying interaction at work or a disagreement with a loved one. Or it might be something deeper and more persistent, like a chronic health issue, financial insecurity, or a lingering sense that you’re still searching for your purpose in life.

Whatever your particular challenge is, here’s what I want you to know: you have the ability to dissolve it. Not push through it. Not force your way around it. But to literally transmute and dissolve it.

Most people carry their problems like permanent fixtures. They become part of the identity: “I’m just someone who struggles with money,” or “I’ve always had health issues,” or “I guess relationships just don’t work out for me.” But what if none of that were true? What if the problem isn’t the problem—but your relationship to it is?

I want to walk you through a four-part framework that will help you rewire the way you look at your challenges. It’s simple, profound, and when practiced—completely transformational. These four parts are: Contrast, Variety, Harmony, and Balance.

So before we go further, bring a problem to mind. Something real. Something that’s bothering you. And let’s begin dissolving it—starting with the very first shift: contrast.

Contrast: Why Problems Are the Starting Line of Creation

What we typically call a “problem” is really just an experience we don’t like. That’s it. It’s an experience—nothing more. But because we don’t like how it feels, we slap the label “problem” on it, and in doing so, we trap ourselves in a low-level loop of resistance.

In the teachings of Abraham Hicks, this idea is reframed in a powerful way. Instead of problems, they use the term contrast. And contrast is not only expected—it’s essential. It’s the raw material of expansion.

Every time we encounter something we don’t want, something else becomes instantly activated in our nervous system: the desire for what we do want. If you feel pain in your body, the desire for wellness is born. If you feel financial pressure, the desire for abundance is sparked. If you see conflict in the world, the desire for peace is activated—not just mentally, but energetically.

You’re not just reacting—you’re creating. With every contrast you experience, you’re signaling to the universe what you desire instead. It’s like an automatic flare being shot from your system into the field, and the field—God, Source, the quantum field, whatever language resonates—is always listening.

So contrast is not a mistake. It’s not something to be avoided or feared. It’s the beginning of the creation process. The invitation is to stop seeing it as something that went wrong and start recognizing it as the spark of everything going right.

Variety: The Seeds of Creation Are Planted

Once we recognize that contrast is the trigger for desire, we begin to see something beautiful unfold: variety. The problem is no longer just a problem—it becomes a catalyst. The experience we didn’t like has served a purpose. It helped us get clearer on what we do want.

This is where things get really powerful. Because the truth is, most people don’t allow variety to emerge. They’re too busy obsessing over the contrast. The moment something goes wrong, they go into fix-it mode. That’s what we’ve been trained to do—find the problem, analyze the problem, and fight the problem into submission. We’re taught that’s the responsible thing to do. But in reality, the more we focus on the problem, the more we keep it alive.

See, your nervous system is wired for survival. It defaults to threat detection. But if you want to live as a conscious creator—not just a reactive survivor—you have to shift your attention from the problem to the preference. From contrast to variety. And variety is where your desires start taking shape.

Let me give you an example from my own life. Not too long ago, we went through a hiring process and brought on a new team member. Within a short period of time, it became clear it wasn’t a fit. I could have gotten frustrated or stayed stuck in the loop of “Why didn’t this work out?” But instead, I recognized it for what it was: a refining process. That person’s presence helped me get laser-clear on what kind of person we do want in that role. The contrast activated the desire, and now I was placing a more specific order with the universe.

You don’t even have to “do” anything for this to work. Just experiencing the problem is enough to shoot the signal into the field. That’s how much you’re loved. That’s how powerful this process is. The field is already working on your behalf to orchestrate coincidences, synchronicities, and solutions—if you’ll allow it.

Harmony: Step Back and Let the Solution Arise

And that brings us to the third part of this framework—harmony. This is where it all begins to click. You’ve experienced contrast. It’s activated desire. You’ve begun to notice variety. Now, if you simply stop clinging to the problem… harmony can naturally emerge.

This is where most people resist. Because the ego says, “No, no, no—you need to do something. You need to fix this.” And while action has its place, true resolution doesn’t come from effort—it comes from energy. From alignment. From allowing.

One of the most effective pieces of advice I give my high-performing entrepreneur clients when they feel stuck in their business isn’t a new strategy or tactic—it’s to take a walk. Go on vacation. Run a bath. Play with your dog. Call a friend. Go back to church. Step away from the problem. Because the more you obsess over it, the more it persists.

This isn’t wishful thinking. It’s physics. In quantum theory, we know the observer affects the observed. If your focus is locked on the problem, you’re feeding it energy. You’re helping it persist. But when you step back, something incredible happens: you make space for harmony. The field reorganizes. Thoughts, ideas, and people begin to move toward you in ways that seem almost magical.

I’ve seen this play out countless times. In relationships. In business. Even in something as seemingly irreversible as infertility. People try everything—force, money, control—and nothing works. And then, the moment they surrender, let go, and live in peace… life happens. The solution appears. The desire is fulfilled. Harmony emerges—not because they solved the problem, but because they let it evolve.

Balance: When the Dance of Life Comes Full Circle

When harmony emerges, what follows is balance. A restoration of energy. A re-centering of your life. And for a moment—sometimes fleeting, sometimes sustained—you feel at peace.

But here’s the twist: the process isn’t linear. It’s cyclical. After balance comes new contrast. A fresh challenge. Another layer of the unfolding. And that’s not a sign that something’s gone wrong—it’s proof that you’re alive. That you’re growing. That life is still working through you.

The beauty of this four-part process—contrast, variety, harmony, balance—is that it’s not just a one-time event. It’s happening across every dimension of your life, all at once. You might have contrast in your finances, variety in your relationships, harmony in your health, and balance in your creativity… all at the same time. And yes, that can feel overwhelming if you think it’s your job to “solve” every part of it.

But when you stop treating life like a problem to be fixed and start seeing it as a dance to be flowed with, everything changes. You begin to ride the waves instead of resisting them. You allow the tides to rise and fall without trying to control the ocean.

There’s no final destination where contrast disappears forever. That would be like expecting the ocean to stop moving. But you can stop drowning in every wave. You can realize, “Oh, I’m just floating. This is just a new part of the rhythm.” That’s balance—not in the sense of stasis, but in the ability to meet life as it comes without losing your center.

The Hidden Danger of Clinging to What’s Dying

One of the most subtle—and destructive—ways we block this process is by clinging to what’s trying to die.

It’s hardwired into us. We want certainty. We want control. We fear change. So we grasp. We white-knuckle our way through problems that are already on their way out. But by trying to “solve” them, we end up keeping them alive.

That job you hate? It’s trying to die. That financial struggle? It’s trying to die. That constant tension in your relationship? It’s trying to die. But you—by obsessing, by ruminating, by refusing to release—are keeping it alive.

There’s a story I love that illustrates this perfectly. Two monks are walking together. One of their vows is to never touch a woman. But along the way, they come across a woman who needs help crossing a stream. One monk picks her up, carries her across, and sets her down. They continue walking in silence for two more days, until finally the second monk says, “I can’t believe you broke our vow and touched that woman.” And the first monk replies, “Brother, I set her down two days ago. You’ve been carrying her ever since.” How many of us are still carrying what we were supposed to release?

When you hang onto things that are dying, part of you dies with them. And that’s what most people call “life.” A slow death by attachment. But real life—vibrant life—is born from letting go. From trusting the process. From making space for what wants to emerge next.

And what’s wild is that fear will convince you the opposite is true. That if you don’t wrestle the problem to the ground, you’ll die. That if you surrender, you’ll lose everything. But the truth? Surrender is not death. It’s resurrection. It’s the beginning of something far more alive than anything you’ve been clinging to.

The Space Between: The Invisible Force Solving Everything

Here’s the part that gets mystical—because it’s not just about mindset, it’s about matter.

Everything you see in the universe—the stars, the planets, your body, your circumstances—isn’t just random. It’s orchestrated. And the conductor of that orchestra isn’t the stuff. It’s the space between the stuff.

Think about it. Our solar system works because of invisible forces—gravitational pulls, fields of energy, sacred geometry holding the planets in orbit at incredible speeds. And it’s not just happening in our solar system. It’s happening in trillions of systems across the universe. All spinning. All moving. All functioning in perfect order.

And what keeps it all aligned? The space. The field. The unseeable—but undeniable—intelligence that governs it all.

That same intelligence is governing your life. You don’t have to force the planets to spin. You don’t have to micromanage the oxygen entering your lungs. And you don’t have to solve every problem in your life. You just have to stop interfering.

Let the field do what it does. Let the problem dissolve. Let the solution arise from a higher level of intelligence than the one that created the problem in the first place.

It’s humbling, yes. But it’s also wildly liberating. Because it means you’re not alone. You’re not in charge of it all. You’re not even supposed to be. Your job is to align—not control. To allow—not force. To listen—not obsess. That’s the power of the space.

Letting the Lotus Bloom

If you could see your life the way I see it—as a field of flowers—you’d see that some blooms are dying, and others are just beginning to emerge. That’s the sacred rhythm of it all. Death. Rebirth. Contrast. Harmony. Again and again.

Your job is not to hold on to what’s wilting. Your job is to make space for what’s blooming.

When you release your grip on the old problem, you make room for the new miracle. When you let go of what’s trying to die, you become available for what’s ready to be born. That’s the irony of it all: what we call “letting go” is actually the act of coming alive.

And the only thing standing between you and that new life… is the belief that you’re the one who has to solve it. You don’t. You never did. This life of yours—it’s not a do-it-yourself project. It’s a do-it-together journey. With Source. With Spirit. With each other.

So if you’re feeling weighed down by a problem right now, I want you to take a breath. Look up at the sky. Let yourself remember the order behind the chaos. The intelligence behind the contrast. And the goodness that’s already unfolding—because of the very problem you’re so ready to escape. Float with it. Flow with it. Let it carry you. And let the lotus of your life bloom.