Episode 119 – This 5-Step Process Will Break Any Limiting Belief

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

For years, I’ve been obsessed with personal growth. I’ve read all the books, attended the seminars, practiced meditation, breathwork, therapy, plant medicine, and even the 12-step program. I was searching for the missing piece—the one idea that would finally unlock my ability to create lasting change. I wanted to know: Why do some people seem to manifest success effortlessly while others stay stuck in cycles of frustration?

At times, I felt like I was spinning my wheels, doing all the “right” things, yet not seeing the breakthroughs I desperately wanted. Maybe you’ve felt the same way—working hard but still feeling like your goals are just out of reach. You might even be wondering if you’re doing something wrong, if you’re missing some secret that others seem to have figured out.

After years of deep work, I discovered something profound—a simple framework that distills everything I’ve ever learned into three key steps. It’s not about working harder, and it’s not about finding the next magic strategy. It’s about understanding and aligning with the fundamental principles that govern success and transformation.

This framework is the foundation for real, lasting change, no matter how long you’ve been struggling. Whether it’s your finances, health, relationships, or business, this process will help you break free from limitations and finally create the life you desire. If you’ve ever felt stuck or frustrated despite your best efforts, you’re about to see things in a whole new way.

The Root Cause of Stagnation: Why We Stay Stuck

If you’re reading this, there’s something in your life you want to change. Maybe you want to improve your health, grow your business, find your soulmate, or break free from financial stress. But before we get into how to create that change, we need to understand why most people stay stuck.

Most people believe that success is about doing more—working harder, trying new strategies, or pushing themselves to the limit. But effort alone isn’t enough. If it were, every hardworking person would be thriving. The truth is, the biggest roadblock to success isn’t external—it’s internal. It’s the beliefs, thoughts, and emotional patterns that shape how we see the world and what we believe is possible.

Think about it: The money in your bank account, the relationships you have, your level of health, and even your happiness all stem from your internal programming. If you subconsciously believe success is difficult, you’ll always struggle. If you believe money is scarce, you’ll find ways to reinforce that belief, even when opportunities arise. Your subconscious mind is running the show, often keeping you stuck in cycles of limitation.

This is why most people fail to break free, despite their best efforts. They’re trying to change their external world without addressing the internal patterns that create it. The real work isn’t just about taking more action—it’s about shifting the underlying beliefs and emotional states that drive those actions in the first place. Only then can true, lasting change happen.

The Three-Step Process for Creating Any Change in Your Life

Transformation doesn’t happen by accident. It follows a predictable process, and once you understand it, you can apply it to any area of your life. Real change isn’t about doing more or working harder—it’s about shifting the internal forces that shape your reality.

1. Awareness: Recognizing the Invisible Forces Controlling Your Life

Most people assume that their circumstances determine their success, but in reality, their thoughts, beliefs, and emotions shape their circumstances. If you subconsciously believe money is scarce, you’ll filter out opportunities. If you believe relationships always end in pain, you’ll sabotage connection. Your life is a reflection of your internal world.

The first step to change is becoming aware of these invisible forces. Start paying attention to recurring patterns in your life. What situations keep repeating? What emotions dominate your daily experience? Awareness alone won’t create change, but it will give you the power to shift.

2. Alignment: Shifting Your Thoughts and Beliefs to Match What You Want

Once you’re aware of your limiting beliefs, the next step is to realign them. If you hold the belief that success is hard, you must consciously replace it with a belief that success is inevitable. Your subconscious mind is programmed through repetition, so daily affirmations, visualization, and surrounding yourself with empowering messages are crucial.

Think of your brain like a GPS. If you set the wrong destination, no amount of driving will get you where you want to go. Alignment is about recalibrating your internal GPS so that your thoughts, emotions, and energy match the reality you desire.

3. Action: Taking Inspired Action from a Place of Confidence and Clarity

Action is where transformation becomes tangible. But not all action is created equal. Most people take action from a place of fear, trying to force results. True transformation happens when action is taken from a state of alignment—where you believe in your success and move with confidence.

When you shift your beliefs and emotions, the right actions become obvious. You stop second-guessing yourself. You recognize opportunities you once overlooked. And most importantly, you move forward with a sense of ease and certainty rather than struggle and doubt.

By integrating awareness, alignment, and action, you create a life that flows rather than one that feels like an uphill battle. This is the foundation of lasting change.

The Truth About Change: Stop Focusing on the How

One of the biggest reasons people stay stuck is their obsession with figuring out how they’re going to achieve their goals. How will I make more money? How will I meet the right person? How will I grow my business? This mindset keeps you locked in fear, doubt, and hesitation because you believe you need to see the full path before you take the first step.

But history has shown us that the greatest successes didn’t come from knowing every step in advance. Think about the Wright brothers—they didn’t wait until they had a perfect blueprint for flight; they simply committed to the vision and kept adjusting. Harriet Tubman led hundreds to freedom without a mapped-out route; she trusted in the vision and took action moment by moment. The same principle applies to your life.

Your mind is designed to seek certainty, but transformation requires trust. When you focus too much on how, you create resistance, which slows down your progress. Instead, shift your focus to what you want and take the next logical step. The path will reveal itself as you move forward. The how is not your job—it’s a byproduct of commitment, clarity, and faith in the process.

Releasing Resistance: The Final Key to Effortless Change

If you’ve ever felt like you’re doing all the right things but still not seeing results, it’s likely because of resistance. Resistance is what stands between you and your desires—it’s the fear, doubt, and limiting beliefs that block the flow of success into your life.

At its core, resistance is a mental and emotional attachment to struggle. It’s the belief that things must be difficult, that you must have everything figured out, or that you must control every step of the process. The problem? The more you resist, the more you push away the very things you want.

The formula for creating change is simple: Desire + Non-Resistance = Desired Results. When you release the need to control how something happens, you create space for the right opportunities to show up. Non-resistance doesn’t mean passivity—it means aligning with trust instead of fear.

Think of water flowing down a river. When there are no obstacles, it moves effortlessly. But when there are rocks and debris, the flow slows down. Your resistance is the debris in your river. Let go of the need to force outcomes, and you’ll be amazed at how quickly your reality shifts.

The Next Step: Make the Decision

Understanding these principles is powerful, but knowledge alone won’t change your life. The final step is making a decision—a firm commitment to align with your desires and take action. Too often, people wait for the perfect moment, the perfect plan, or the perfect level of confidence before they move forward. But transformation begins the moment you decide that you are ready now.

Your decision doesn’t need to be grand. It can start with something as simple as shifting your mindset from doubt to belief or taking one small action in the direction of your goals. The moment you decide to release resistance and trust in the process, opportunities begin to appear, clarity starts to unfold, and momentum builds.

So ask yourself: What is one step I can take today toward the life I desire? Commit to it. Trust in the process. Your future is waiting.