Episode 099 – The Jesus Question: Does he hold the secret to becoming superhuman

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

There’s a profound truth I’ve discovered through my journey: a personal relationship with God is essential to achieving the deepest level of personal growth. This isn’t just about faith or religion—it’s about creating peace, calm, and purpose that permeates every aspect of your life. Today, I want to share my story, the insights I’ve gained, and the practices that have truly transformed my world.

From Limiting Beliefs to Higher Questions

Let me take you back to a conversation I had with one of my private clients in Antigua, Guatemala. He was transforming a limiting belief about not being good enough. As he shared how he was finding evidence that he was, in fact, good enough, I told him, “You’re ready for the next level.” That got his attention.

“How do I get there?” he asked.

I explained, “It’s like standing in a garden, pulling the weeds of your limiting beliefs. When you’ve pulled enough, you see the sky. Then you can move into a completely different conversation: ‘What is God’s will for me?’”

The shift is profound. It’s not about whether you’re good enough or not. It’s about surrendering to something greater and aligning your life with a higher purpose. I’ve seen this transformation again and again. Those who eliminate enough limiting beliefs eventually find themselves drawn to spirituality and a personal relationship with the God of their understanding.

This shift is like stepping out of the endless loop of self-improvement and stepping into a dialogue with life itself. When you ask, “What is God’s will for me?” you’re not just pulling weeds anymore; you’re planting seeds for something extraordinary.

Surrendering to a Higher Power

This realization became a cornerstone of my recovery from addiction. In the 12-step framework, there’s a prayer we often say: “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.” That wisdom is everything, but it only comes when you’ve built a relationship with a higher power.

For me, surrendering my addiction meant letting go of control. I had to trust that a power greater than myself was working for my growth, my prosperity, and my evolution. Without this surrender, I would have continued creating chaos by trying to control the uncontrollable. And that’s the trap many of us fall into—we hustle and grind, we burn out, and even if we achieve success, we’re too exhausted to enjoy it.

This surrender isn’t passive; it’s active trust. It’s believing that life is conspiring for your highest good, even when it’s hard to see. And it’s only through a personal relationship with a higher power that this kind of trust becomes possible.

The Trap of Personal Growth Junkie Syndrome

Here’s the thing: without a spiritual foundation, personal growth becomes a merry-go-round. You attend seminars, read books, jump up and down to get into state. But eventually, you fall back into the same patterns. That’s what I call “personal growth junkie syndrome.”

Now, I’m not judging anyone who’s on this path. I’ve been there too. The difference comes when you have a spiritual anchor. Whether you call it God, the universe, or the quantum field, what matters is that it becomes personal. For years, I had a relationship with “the universe,” and that worked for a while. But eventually, I realized I needed something more intimate.

Without that spiritual anchor, you’re constantly chasing the next high, the next breakthrough, the next fix. And when the buzz wears off, you’re left with the same unresolved issues. It’s like running on a treadmill, expending energy but never really going anywhere.

Building a Personal Relationship with God

About 18 months ago, I started exploring what it would mean to have a personal relationship with God. I felt drawn to wake up early and journal—a practice I now call communion journaling. Here’s how it works:

First, I write, “Dear Father,” and thank God for everything in my life. Gratitude is the foundation. I look at my family, my work, even the improbability of life itself, and I’m overwhelmed with thankfulness. None of it could exist without God.

Then, I ask for what I need, but I do it with the belief that it’s already done. This aligns with Neville Goddard’s teaching of acting as if the wish is fulfilled. Finally, I pray for others, holding faith that what I ask for them is already happening. This practice has built a new nervous system in me—one that trusts life deeply.

Journaling became my way of having a dialogue with God. It’s where I found clarity, peace, and direction. And it’s where I began to see that life wasn’t something I had to control; it was something I could co-create.

Discovering Unconditional Love

Through this process, I realized something profound: I had spent my life seeking unconditional love from my father, not understanding that he couldn’t give it. My dad, like all humans, had his own conditions, shaped by his responsibilities and past traumas.

It was only in my relationship with God that I found the unconditional love I had been craving. God has no needs. That’s why this relationship feels so safe and secure. It’s the only truly unconditional relationship we can have, and it creates a sense of peace that’s foundational for personal growth.

When you experience unconditional love from God, it changes everything. It’s like a weight lifts off your shoulders. You stop seeking validation from people who can’t give it to you, and you start living from a place of wholeness.

The Role of Christ in This Relationship

This brings me to Christ. For a long time, I’d spoken about God, the universe, or infinite intelligence. But recently, I’ve come to see Christ as an essential part of this relationship. Christianity, at its core, is a tradition of loving devotion. It’s about praising a God who loves us and building a personal connection with Christ as God who walked the earth.

This is different from philosophies like Buddhism or Taoism, which emphasize nonattachment. Those principles are valuable, but Christianity offers something unique: a personal relationship with a loving God. Christ, as a human representation of God, gives us a way to relate to the divine in a deeply personal way.

Through Christ, I found a new way of connecting with God. It’s not about religion or dogma; it’s about relationship. Christ’s teachings remind us that we are loved, that we are not alone, and that we are part of something greater.

Surrendering to Possibility

One of Christ’s most powerful teachings is this: “I am the way.” I interpret that as an invitation to build a personal relationship with God. When you do, you gain access to a higher level of possibility. Neuroscience supports this—belief shapes our reality. Even if there’s a placebo effect in believing in a loving God, it changes how you show up in the world.

But this isn’t just about belief. It’s about integration. It’s not enough to reclaim a relationship with Christ; we have to live by his teachings. That’s the real work, and it’s where transformation happens.

Surrendering to possibility means letting go of the need to have all the answers. It means trusting that life is unfolding exactly as it should, even when it doesn’t make sense. And it means believing that miracles are not only possible but inevitable when you align with a higher power.

Moving Beyond Limits

Ultimately, a personal relationship with God is the key to moving beyond the limits of personal growth. It allows you to surrender what you can’t control, align with a higher purpose, and find peace in the process. If you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed, consider this: what would it look like to build that relationship for yourself?

You don’t have to have all the answers. Just start by asking, “What is God’s will for me?” and see where that question takes you. I promise, it’s a journey worth taking.