Episode 095 – The Best 12 Minutes of Personal Growth Ever Recorded

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

Let me ask you something. Have you ever felt like you’re not enough? That you’re not worthy? Maybe it’s a thought that creeps in when you look at where you are in life or compare yourself to others. If so, you’re not alone. In fact, I’d argue this is the single most crippling belief holding people back. And today, we’re going to dismantle it together.

Here’s the truth: the idea that you’re not enough doesn’t make sense. By the time you finish reading this, you’ll see why that’s true—and not just see it, but feel it. There’s nothing you need to do except listen to what I’m sharing and play along in your head. Trust me, this will change how you see yourself forever.

What Does “Not Enough” Even Mean?

Let’s start here: What does it mean to not be enough? Really think about it. Imagine I’m someone from another planet who’s never heard of this concept. Explain it to me. Is it that you don’t have enough money? That you’re not as successful as you should be? That other people are further ahead? Maybe it’s because you didn’t finish college or because your business isn’t where you thought it would be.

Now flip it. What does it mean to be enough? Does it mean having a certain amount of money? A certain number of followers on social media? Maybe you think being enough means being a better partner or parent, or finally starting that dream business. Whatever it is, pause and really think about your definition of worthiness or being good enough.

Now let me ask you this: If you didn’t have those things, would you really be less worthy? Less enough? Or is it just a story you’ve been telling yourself?

The Truth About Worthiness

I want you to try something with me. Picture someone in your life that you love deeply. Maybe it’s your child, your pet, a best friend, or even a mentor. Got it? Now, ask yourself: Are they enough? Are they worthy?

Of course, they are. It’s almost a silly question, isn’t it? You don’t measure their worth by how much money they make or how many followers they have. They’re enough just as they are.

Now let me ask you this: If they suddenly had less money, fewer friends, or weren’t as successful, would they become less worthy? Would they stop being enough? No, of course not. Their worth isn’t tied to those things. They’re enough because they exist.

Here’s the thing: If that’s true for them, why wouldn’t it be true for you?

You Were Always Enough

Take a moment to think about nature. Picture a tree, a river, a mountain, or a squirrel. Are some of them worthier than others? Is one tree “more enough” than another tree? Of course not. They’re all just… enough. They exist, and that’s enough. The same is true for you. You’re part of that same natural order.

But somewhere along the way, someone introduced this idea of “not enough.” Maybe it was society, a parent, a teacher, or even a friend. They taught it to you, and it became a habit—something you started to believe without question. But like any habit, it can change.

The truth is, you’ve always been enough. Nothing can be added to or taken away from you to make you more or less worthy. It’s who you are at your core.

Breaking the “Not Enough” Habit

Here’s what I want you to do the next time you feel like you’re not enough. Stop. Pause. And think about that person or pet you love so much. Ask yourself: Are they enough? Are they worthy? Then ask: Why wouldn’t the same be true for me?

You see, “not enough” is just a story. It’s a habit of thought. But habits can change. And it doesn’t have to be hard. Every time you notice yourself falling into the “not enough” pattern, take a breath and remind yourself: I’ve always been enough. I am enough. I will always be enough.

It’s not about convincing yourself or adding something to make it true. It’s about remembering what has always been true.

You Can’t Add or Subtract from Worthiness

Let’s go back to that loved one in your mind. Is there anything they could add to themselves to make them more worthy? Maybe more money, more success, or more fame? No. Their worthiness doesn’t change based on external things. The same goes for you.

Now, what if they lost something? What if they had less money or fewer friends? Would they be less worthy? Again, no. Worthiness isn’t something you gain or lose. It just is.

This applies to you too. There’s nothing you could add to yourself to make you more worthy and nothing you could lose to make you less worthy. You are enough just as you are.

Remembering the Truth

Right now, you probably get it. You understand, at least in this moment, that you’ve always been enough. But here’s the thing: you might forget. The habit of “not enough” might sneak back in. And that’s okay.

Every time you remember this truth, you strengthen it. Every time you stop and remind yourself, I am enough, you’re breaking the habit of doubt and reinforcing the truth.

It’s like building a muscle. The more you practice, the stronger it gets. And over time, the belief that you’re not enough will start to feel as ridiculous as it actually is.

You Are Enough

Let’s wrap this up with one final thought. You are enough. You’ve always been enough. And you always will be enough. Nothing can add to or take away from your worthiness. It’s not something you earn; it’s something you are.

The next time you forget, remember this: Look at the trees, the rivers, or the mountains. Look at that loved one in your mind. And remember, if they’re enough, so are you. You are part of the same natural perfection.

You’ve got this. And I believe in you.