Episode 048 – Stop Comparing: Put An End To The ‘Not Enough’ Trap Once And For All

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Note: This blog post serves as an accompaniment to the corresponding podcast episode of A Changed Mind, where we’ll distill down the core ideas of this week’s theme, along with additional distinctions and insights. If you haven’t listened to the episode yet, you can go here to do so.  Enjoy.

Today, I want to talk about something that plagues many of us: comparing ourselves to others. It’s time to let go of this unproductive habit and embrace our own unique journey.

Comparing ourselves to others is a common struggle. You might find yourself scrolling through social media, seeing others celebrate their successes, and feeling like you’re not as far along as you should be. This can lead to feelings of inadequacy, stress, and anxiety. Trust me, I’ve been there.

When I stopped comparing myself to others, my life and business transformed. My income, impact, and joy multiplied. This wasn’t just a fluke; it was the result of understanding and applying three powerful distinctions that I want to share with you today.

Your Vision is Given to You

The first distinction is that the vision you have for your life isn’t something you’re making up—it’s being given to you. Many people believe they’re inventing their goals and dreams, but that’s not true. You’re tuning into a vision that already exists for you.

For example, when I started my journey, I was just like you, questioning my worth and abilities. I remember reading Eckhart Tolle’s “The Power of Now” and thinking, “How can I compare with this brilliance?” But I realized that my vision to help others wasn’t made up; it was given to me. And it’s the same for you. Your desires and dreams are not random—they are meant for you to pursue.

Others’ Success Makes Your Path Easier

The second distinction is that others’ achievements are making your path easier. When we see others succeed, it’s easy to think that the market is too crowded or that we’re not good enough. But in reality, those successes are paving the way for us.

I once saw a massive influencer move into the personal development space and thought, “Well, there goes the market.” But their presence brought more people into this field, making it easier for me to reach and help those who needed my unique approach. The successes of others are not roadblocks; they are road signs showing us what is possible and making our journey smoother.

Don’t Trust Everything You See

Finally, don’t trust everything you see. Many people and influencers present a polished, perfect image, but behind the scenes, it’s a different story. They might inflate their successes or hide their struggles. It’s important to appreciate others’ achievements without letting them make you feel inadequate.

I’ve met many influencers who, despite their large followings, struggle with the same insecurities and challenges as anyone else. Their success stories are often not as straightforward as they seem. So, take what you see with a grain of salt and focus on your own journey.

Embrace This Simple Shift 

Stop comparing yourself to others and start celebrating your unique path. Each step you take is valuable and necessary for your growth. Remember, the universe wouldn’t give you a vision if it wasn’t possible for you to achieve it.

Whenever you find yourself comparing, remind yourself of Florence Scovel Shinn’s affirmation: “What God is doing for others, He is doing for me and even more.” This simple shift in mindset can transform how you view your journey.

You Are Right Where You Need to Be

You are exactly where you need to be right now. The comparing, judging, and self-criticism are not serving you. Instead, focus on your vision, trust the process, and know that your path is unique and important.

Embrace your journey with confidence and gratitude. Know that the successes you see around you are not signs of your inadequacy but are paving the way for your greatness. Your masterpiece is already within you; all you need to do is remove what doesn’t belong.

You’re doing a great job. Keep moving forward, and remember, what is meant for you will not pass you by. Let go of comparing and step into your true potential. You’ve got this.